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《最难维持的是内心的平静》

发布时间:2018-01-12 11:47 类别:恋爱部落

  好友阿高说,已记不得这两天自己[ZiJi]到底发了几次脾气了!   看我半天没接话,阿高就解释道,也许是工作的鸭梨,也许是喝多了酒,也许是长期积累而导致的身体亚健康状态,反正不知是什么原因,脾气一下变坏了,一天里总有几次毫无征兆的就是一通无名火。   我就说道,可能你这主要还是健康状况出问题了,中医理论说“病由心生,病由心解”,要求我们时时刻刻做到心平气和,而保持一个良好的情绪,就可以防止和缓解许多疾病。   阿高说他内心也时时告诫自己,一定要做到心平气和,保持人生从容不迫姿态,可是当遇到生活不公的待遇,很看不惯一些丑陋的东西,或与人发生争执时,就忍不住,很容易的情绪激动,心浮气躁,产生恼怒、愤懑等不良情绪。   阿高继续说,这还罢了,关键有时候好端端的并没有什么人或事惹着我,也突发雷霆之怒,对着空气一阵抓狂。   我接道,情绪本来就是一种漂浮不定的感受,随时都在改变。在日常生活中,我们总是牵挂得太多,太在意得失,情绪很容易起起伏伏。很多时候导致我们心理失衡,继而生气[ShengQi]或气急败坏——这主要是因为我们对生活心存偏激,期望值太高,宽容不够。   阿高感叹道,当今这是一个很难让我们真正感到快乐的社会,国家越来越[YueLaiYue]富,美容化妆我们越来越穷;控制越来越严,自由越来越少;乱折腾越来越凶,脚踏实地越来越虚;物价越来越[YueLaiYue]涨,生存越来越[YueLaiYue]难。从国际环境来说也让人很忧惧,好不容易换来国内的改革发展和平稳定了,现在东亚军备竞赛很白热化,东北亚和平局势十分脆弱!对此,我忧心忡忡。   我笑道,既然我们无法改变周围的世界,不妨改变自己。问渠哪得清如许,为有源头活水来。佛教可能很消极,但对于个体的修行还是大有裨益的。佛教有种修行叫做“禁视”,就是闭上眼睛不许看,慢慢地你就看到自己了,看到心里的仇恨、嫉妒、妄想。   我话闸子一打开,就滔滔不绝起来:现在人们就是缺乏自省,碰到任何事,都是别人不对,自己[ZiJi]对。要是能发现自己[ZiJi]的问题,肯承认自己[ZiJi]的错误,是非常难能可贵的。当我们生气时,我们能否多想一想:我不是为了生气[ShengQi]而工作的;我不是为了生气[ShengQi]而结婚的;我不是为了生气[ShengQi]而聚会的;我不是为了生气[ShengQi]而旅行的······人要是能做到一日三省吾身,就会心平气和而快乐起来。   阿高颔首道,是啊,人如果不能心平气和,即使钱再多但烦恼更多,还不如钱少但内心安详的人。   阿高给我说他有个朋友,家大业大,开着一家公司,效益很不错,日进万金,但一回到家,总觉得不如意,看电视很烦躁,听电话就讨厌,有时夫妻吵架,儿女骄纵,更是-令他烦恼不已。  High o friends said,Has not remember this two days you a few temper!   Look at me half a day didn't answer,O work explained,Perhaps the work pears,Perhaps the drink too much wine,May be caused by long-term accumulation body of sub-health state,Anyway,I do not know what reason be,Has it gone bad temper,The day there are always a few times without warning is an uncontrollable rage.   I just said,Could you this major health problems,The doctor of traditional Chinese medicine theory“Disease of the mind,Heart disease by solution”,Ask us to be calm all the time,But we keep a good mood,Can prevent and relieve many diseases.   O high says his heart is always telling myself,Must be calm,Keep life leisurely attitude,But when it comes to life to unfair treatment,Hate something ugly,Or arguing with people,Can not but,It is easy to emotional,impetuous,irritates/The bitterness etc.Bad mood.   Continued high o,It also,The key sometimes good and no person or thing to provoke me,Also breaking the wrath of the thunder,To air a burst of crazy.   I connect a way,Emotion is a kind of floating feeling,Change all the time.In daily life,We always care too much,Too care about gain and loss,The mood is very easy to ups and downs.Many times we lead to psychological imbalance,Which in turn angry or frustrated——This is mainly because we are extreme to life,Expectations are too high,Tolerance is not enough.   O high sighs,Today it is a hard to make our real happy society,Countries are getting richer,We are getting poorer and poorer;Control is more and more strict,Less free;Mess with more and more fierce,Their feet on the ground is more and more virtual;Price is more and more higher,Survival is becoming increasingly difficult.From the international environment,also let a person very apprehension,Very not easy for domestic reform,development and peace and stability,Now an arms race in east Asia is very heated,Peace in northeast Asia is very fragile!this,I'm worried about.   I laughed,Since we can't change the world around them,Might as well change their.How can it be so clear and cool,For water fresh comes from its source.Buddhism can be negative,But for individual practice or helpful.Buddhism has a practice called“The forbidden regards”,Close your eyes are not allowed to see,Slowly you see yourself,See the hatred of the heart/jealousy/delusion.   My word gate open,Gushing up: people now is lack of introspection,Encounter anything,Are not on others,About the.If I can find their own problems,Willing to admit your mistakes,It is very valuable.When we are angry,We can think about more:I work is not to get angry;I'm not married to their anger;I am not a party to angry;I don't travel to get angry······If people can do a day of three provinces in my body,Will be calm and happy.   O high moment,,yeah,If people can not calm,Even if again much money but worry more,It is better to less money but inner peace.   O high told me he had a friend,The home of big,Open a company,Benefit is very good,Rijin describe,But got home,Always feel not equal to idea,Watching TV is very be agitated,The phone is hate,Sometimes couples quarrel,The children proud,- he felt harassed by.

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