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发布时间:2018-02-13 07:14 类别:恋爱部落

  我们常听到一个人对另一个人的评价:这个人变了!    人一生,从幼年至壮年、中年,以至老年,的确不是一成不变,而是不断处于变化之中。请注意,这里的这个“变”,不是指的年龄、身高、外貌、体力、健康素质等的变化[BianHua],主要指的是一个人的价值观、性格、禀性等变化[BianHua]。    我把这种变化[BianHua],用一个词去形容:心变[XinBian]!    也请注意,心变[XinBian],不同于变心。我们通常所说的变心[BianXin],指一个人的情变——对恋人或爱人变心[BianXin]了,以至于始乱终弃或同床异梦等。    我所言的心变[XinBian],具体而言,可以罗列许多,比如:一个人的政治、家庭生活社会[SheHui]、人生的观念在不断的变化[BianHua],思想决定行为,行为方式也随之而改变;一个人的政治与社会地位发生了改变,待人接物的方式也随之改变了,如颐指气使、刚愎自用或溜须拍马、唯唯诺诺等;一个人受社会[SheHui]环境的影响,日益变得自私、多疑、道德缺失,等等等等,不一而足。    人一生在成长过程中,我们的心变[XinBian]了又变,以前叫我们落泪的事,如今可能为我们讪笑;年轻时追求的理想信念,抑或在乎的事与人,现在很可能觉得不值一提;曾经坚持的良知与善意,于今却觉得很傻,因为身边的遭遇总是告诉我们:好人命不长,女人天下祸害遗千年。    当今这时代,我们最容易变成这样一群人:一颗心麻木不仁,铁石心肠渐渐炼成,学会明哲保身,只顾个人的利益得失·····  We often hear one person to another person:This person has changed!    One of life,From childhood to maturity/middle-aged,That old,Do not stand still,But is constantly changing.Please note that,Here the“change”,Does not mean age/height/appearance/Physical strength/Health and quality of change,Mainly refers to a person's values/character/The change such as temperament.    I put this change,Use one word to describe:Heart changed!    Please also note,Heart changed,Different from a change of heart.We usually say a change of heart,Refers to a person's things——The couple or lover a change of heart,Curated that or break-up,etc.    I said in the heart,To be specific,You can list many,Such as:A person's politics/social/The idea of life is constantly changing,Thought decision behavior,Behavior also subsequently and change;A person's political and social status changed,Treat people the way has been changed,Such as the boss,/Eg: or domineering/Yes - etc.;A person affected by the social environment,Is becoming more and more selfish/paranoid/Lack of moral,Etc.,etc.,To name but a few.    In the process of growing life,Our hearts are changed and changed,Before that we shed tears,May now be smile for us;Pursuit of the ideal faith when he was young,Or care about the things and people,Now probably think isn't worth mentioning;Once conscience and kindness,This felt very silly,Because side have always told us:Good life is not long,Disaster in one thousand.    Today this time,We are most likely to become such a group of people:A heart insensitive,Gradually into a heart of stone,Learn to preserve our sanity,The interest of the individual gain and loss·····